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>>376660 It's not the first thing I consider, but it is something I consider, after meeting a lot of people (and a lot of terrible people) and having a lot of bizarre experiences. When multiple, unrelated chicks over the course of 15 years follow the same pattern, unrelated to one another and in totally different social circles, bragging to you how they scared off or diverted more intimidating or creepy/annoying men with this technique, you do kind of have to wonder: How many spiders are hiding in the grass, for every one you can see? When you observe a phenomenon actually happening and query to the individuals why they did it and what they were trying to prove, I guess it could be considered cynical. But it isn't inherently wrong.
>>376666 In my (previously stated) experience, he'd only be "being polite" if the girl Minifig legitimately conversed with tapped her boyfriend to deal with him. If he didn't, he proactively approached the situation and got involved, solely to throw out the "OHHH. HI. I NOTICED YOU WERE TALKING TO MYYY GIRLFRIEND" card. That's not politeness, that's diplomatically establishing territory. It's phase one to put his foot up on top of her and claim his possession, and the subtle implication is that whomever is on the receiving end of this social display needs to keep their distance, or the person peacocking will consider them infringing on their territory, and anything they do or say will be considered self-defense. And given the girl's reaction, it does seem as if her boyfriend both lied about the seriousness and depth of their relationship, as well as took the liberty of reading her correspondences and responding to Minifig without her knowledge. What he was trying to do here is eclipse the girl and reroute Minifig away from her, completely. How she actually felt was irrelevant to her boyfriend, since she piped up apparently lacking knowledge this was even going on.
It's not sweet, it's not cute, it's not nice, it's not polite. It's a controlling behavior to read your girlfriend's private correspondences, respond to people messaging them, throw out how serious your relationship is and say "go away, signed: both of us." It's not on the same level as locking your girlfriend into a closet or phoning their friends anonymously to threaten them and put distance between them and her, no. And that's the point. The severity is limited both by the intelligence of the douchebag, the severity of their infatuation and the level they're willing to sink to to get what they want. The smart ones won't come out guns blazing, the smart ones will "be polite" and smile while turning family, friends and anybody they don't personally like or trust away from the door. This is real life, not Lifetime. Abusive assholes are not mincing, unearthly ugly or handsome men followed by dramatic music.
>I've had experiences a lot like this one, where I was too scared/cowardly/polite to break it off with people I didn't even like talking to that much, so another friend stepped in for me. I have a tendency to laugh a lot when I'm nervous and prattle on about stuff which some guys take to mean that I am interested in the conversation (or THEM) when I am definitely 100% not. I generally try to end "friendships" with people like this by hoping they just go away, and when they message me further, I do not like it at all and will not respond to them after a while of my own free will.
Please work on your backbone. Cuntbags like the guy Minifig has run across prey on this weakness and use it to muddy the waters of whether they're being a chivalrous hero on the behalf of a bucklekneed lady or a controlling asshat. If she would just tell him herself if she felt this way, and society didn't expect girls to waffle on actually telling fellows they're uncomfortable with to go away, it wouldn't even be up for debate. If this guy did this for another man, much as many might hate to admit it, it'd be more apparently possible he was getting involved from the peanut gallery and overstepping his bounds. :(
>>376675 Again pulling from my experiences, I'd say he does sound only as abusive as he thinks he can conceivably get away with. And that is the WORST KIND, because the closer the relationship becomes, the more trust given, the more privacy, the higher and greater degree of abuse. But, it sounds like the girl Minfig was corresponding with may not have been drinking the kool-aid as much as the douche was betting, and that is a good sign.
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