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>>379792 If I may, I think part of that problem is actually in how men are taught to "approach" women. Or rather that the idea of "approach" is used.
A lot of what guys are taught as far as romance is firmly entrenched in traditional gender roles. The idea that the man is the dominant force is still very much present, and this leads to the concept of "approaching" women, as traditionally, it is perceived that the man should fight to win over the woman. This is a misinterpretation of the need to actually be social; I can't say whether the world's greatest lovers ever had a lot of friends, but studies show that people with larger (face-to-face) social networks have better prospects for jobs, better upward mobility, better quality of life, and just are in general happier. "You can't get laid if you don't talk to people". The problem is that you start talking to people with the sole intent of getting laid, and that makes them dislike you.
In pursuing women, crassly I imagine the best method would actually be to make women want you. To do that, one is actually behooven to pursue the tenants of a good life. Keeping in physical health, having a paying job, having technical assets, getting out a lot, having lots of friends, having interesting hobbies and weird diversions, always having something interesting to do. However, in pursuit of the good life, the pursuit of physical intimacy becomes a bit crass, even vulgar. Cultivation of a wide assortment of interesting people as regular figures in your life is far more pleasant, and actually leads to more chance encounters than dogged pursuit of the phrase "always more fish in the sea".
This is the kind of thing I think Feminism really can help men with, which in turn would help women. So little thought is given to the quality of life and the interaction of partners in the face of "romantic advice". The method more often than not is simply pointing someone horny who's horny at someone who can get them horny and saying "go4it". Which, y'know, no problem with that plan.
As to Feminists taking over the world, I don't think we'll ever see anything reaaaally like the matriarchy take over. Why? because Patriarchy is kind of a false ideological notion, the way the Illuminati are. Yeah, there are people who run the world, but they don't all like each other and sit around in secret meetings practicing their evil laughs. With Patriarchy (and Matriarchy, really), it's not so much that there's a memo going out every month as there's a lot of tiny decisions being made in multiple places where the people making them have not been taught to consider these kinds of things. More properly, a lot of them have been taught to think traditionally about it all.
sage for I should've put this in the sex thread
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