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>>374680 I actually kind of had this opportunity. However, this needs some setup, so tl;dr: For whatever reason, as a kid, my parents called me by the nickname for my middle name, but never by my first name. So whenever teachers would do first role call for a new semester, they'd call my name and I'd tell them I wanted to be called by my middle name; after all, regardless of your middle name, if everyone called you Steve for 14 years and someone started calling you Greg, it would just be weird.
Anyway, I went to two different high schools; my family moved half way through. At the first high school, there happened to be another person in my grade who had the same name as my legal name. I don't know if he was a naturally bully or if he took offense by my insistence at using a different name or just used that at an excuse, but he was a regular bully at the first high school. Not the worst one I had to deal with, but one none-the-less. When we moved after Sophomore year to a few hours away, I had my name legally changed to switch the first and middle, in order to end this problem once and for all.
A few years later, when I took a Christmas job at Best Buy while taking a break from College, it turns out he was also an employee there. I actually didn't realize it until he stopped me after work and brought it all up; initially, I got angry remembering it, but then he apologized for, in his words, "being a little shit." I'm sure the worst bullies I dealt with were still shitheads, but mostly due to their upbringing, and I realized after talking to this guy that even if they are, and even if I had the opportunity, bringing a world of hurt on them, even just a single punch, might give me a moment's satisfaction, but in the end wouldn't improve anything and, in fact, might make me feel worse.
I haven't forgiven any of them (except the one guy), but I've realized that retribution won't make me feel better. In fact, if I get into the classic situation where I have power over them and they need something from me, by being the better man and treating him with the same civility I'd treat anyone else, I'll have far more confidence in myself.
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